The question of whether the baby needs to sleep in a separate bed or with parents worries many. There is no single answer. Even psychologists have not come to a common opinion on this issue.
Hard arguments opponents of joint sleep:
- In a dream, parents can pin down the baby.
- In the future, joint sleep will affect the normal sexual development in children.
- The presence of children in the parental bed interferes with their intimate life.
- Baby grows dependent.
How to do the parents?
Opinions "against"
1. When the first child is born, it is clear that parents want to do everything necessary for their health: wearing sling, breastfeeding, sleeping together ... What should a child do in the bed of spouses? After all, no one withdrew his wife’s duties when she became a mother. Naturally, in the first 40 days, when there is no strength, experience, mom is better to recover if the baby is placed under the mum's flank. But here too there should not be a goal of joint sleep. A child must learn to sleep alone.
2. We often put the children to sleep with us, hoping to sleep well. But. experts found that children sleeping with their mothers almost all night lay face to them. Both the kids and their parents react sensitively to the slightest movements of each other, their sleep is shallow.
3. Naked adult bodies can affect the formation of sexuality in children.
Opinions for:
1. The danger of harm to the child exists if the parents are under the influence of alcohol, drugs. But such moms and without joint sleep will cause harm to the baby.
2. In the crib, the baby cannot hear the mother's heartbeat, breathing.
3. When the baby is sleeping separately, he feels abandoned, lonely.
4. Joint sleep is one of the frequent ways to fill the lack of communication with the child (if they are engaged) at the expense of tactile sensations, at the level of elementary human warmth that sleeping people share together.
5. The formation of the baby’s sexuality is badly affected not by joint sleep with parents, but by the way they relate to each other.
