- I did not hear from him what he had to tell me!
- And you asked?
- Why voice what is clear?
- That is, you are offended by the fact that there was no answer to what you didn’t ask?
- Oh, what are you, men, stupid ...
I will explain. I am a man who reads women's magazines. No, of course, tips for losing weight women, interspersed with baking recipes (another sample of incomprehensible female logic) I miss. But everything related to relationships, especially if they tell you about us, I try to read. No, not so - I try to understand them. Because I'm trying to learn how to understand women.
* Remember this movie? :)
Or at least understand how you see us. And with every article I read it becomes more and more clear that this is a hopeless matter. Firstly, only women write articles about men. It can not be otherwise - you can not "advise" what can not be advised? And so I fully admit that in this way they remove competitors. Secondly, there is a feeling that all this is said for the ladies, whose intellectual level is called sin to be intellectual. And, thirdly, we, men, in such “stories” are completely unable to think. The feeling that they are not talking about people at all, but some animals, guided solely by instinct.
* Is that how you see us ???
And in response, I always wanted to say ... well, at least something, but I wanted to say it. Moreover, I understand - we are just as incomprehensible to you. And our logic seems completely illogical to you. And now, “taking advantage of the opportunity,” I will try to translate “from the male to the universal,” especially since this topic is more than beneficial.
And I'll start with a completely innocent theme of clothing and jewelry. Women, dear, answer the elementary question - for whom do you dress up? I can predict - the most common option will be "for myself." I will not argue - we all seem to be doing for ourselves. Even when we are doing something that we don’t seem to like. There is always a reason that makes us want something: fashion, opinion of others, etc., etc. But, you see, this is not really “for myself”? As a result, self-deception occurs, so this answer does not count.
The second option, which may seem more honest - to like men. But this is absolutely nonsense. Probably, every married lady can remember the conversation: "How do you like this dress? I don’t like it? You don’t understand anything!" (by the way, this is why it is easier for us to say that we like everything).
After all, we really understand nothing. But from the point of view of women. Because we understand quite differently. But if you start listing what men don’t like, I’m risking hearing the same thing in return - I don’t understand anything, I don’t understand anything, and in general I have no taste at all.
Although a few examples still give. Every man has heard more than once: “We are ready for anything for them, we grow manicure, we walk on heels of 20 centimeters, and they ...” I will say for all the stronger sex - “they” cannot stand all of this! Imagine - we really do not like long manicured nails. And when these claws are also false ... This is really terrible. By the way, such a "decoration" can not attract to the lady, but push away from her. The subconscious mind obligingly slips a picture in which these nails dig into your back.
So after all you also try to draw something on them, paint it in a terrible color or even worse - attach something else to them. And you will admire such beauty. I agree - the nail can be beautiful. But what does this have to do with its owner? Do you seriously think that if some part of your toilet will attract attention, it will make you more attractive? Nothing like this!
Try to understand the simple truth - a man likes a woman. It is in itself, so to speak, "in general". And if something in your image attracts attention separately, then that attention will be stolen from you. The same nails. It is equivalent to putting all the same beautifully painted nails on the table and admiring them. Separated from the woman.
Or all the same heels terrible height. First of all, do not be offended, but they must be able to walk. We do not know how to do this, and perhaps that is why it is so unpleasant for us to look at how girls walk on bent legs after a working or school day. But on stilts. By the way, again about the subconscious - a high thin heel causes a different picture - of how it steps on your leg.
We can not stand styling "a la bride." Same torment, constantly to hear "Be careful, you will spoil a hairdress". To this category can be attributed any outfits that you are afraid to break-bruise-spoil. Why wear something that is uncomfortable? And it is inconvenient for us, if you seem to wear it like for us?
Okay, and all these strings, bows and other decorations on underwear? So that we admire? Why, you take us all for whom? After all, it is obvious that you are waiting for enthusiasm and ostentatious passion. Yes, of course, this is exactly what we wanted - to indulge in your cowards ... But then again - do not tear, pull, spoil ...
And this horror, a few years ago, a squeak of fashion - pants, trousers which began somewhere near the knees? The girl in this outfit looked either like a physical monster, whose legs grew twice shorter, but her body was twice as long, or as a worn-out child, and carrying the whole thing with him.
A piercing in any parts of the body? Well, explain why you are trying to stick it wherever possible? Is it really impossible to see in the mirror that the silver ball in the crease of the nose causes only one association - with acne, which is about to burst? I'm not talking about more intimate places. Is it really so hard to think that a man, even in the period of the greatest passion, will think about one thing - how not to tear it off? And if you still tear off?
And what, in the end, it turns out? We do not like much of what you put on yourself and what you do with yourself. We do not understand the brands of fashion designers, and they very much excite you. Too much of what you wear is just uncomfortable. Then for whom all these torments, if both the first and second options do not coincide too much with reality (for themselves or for men)?
This begs the only answer. Women dress not for themselves or even for men. Women seek to "decorate" themselves for other women. How is it - the other one has it, but I do not? Or "to Lenka envied."
In society, there is an opinion that men compete all their lives. Yes, I agree, we are competing, but this is open competition, and it does not manifest itself as often. And not so much affect our lives. But the real rivalry can only be between women. And it always lasts, constantly, every day and every minute: who has children better, who has a husband, who has better clothes and who is more beautiful.
There is not a single girl group in which the dispute over “who in the world is all the sweeter” would not flare up. And sometimes passions flare up serious. By the way, this is one of the first things where our misunderstanding begins: "Sash, if the girls ask you who is more beautiful - Sveta or Zoyk, say that Sveta". We cannot understand what will change because of this, especially since, in general, we consider Zoyka more beautiful.
And then you grow up, but nothing changes. You compete with everyone at once. Even those with whom in real life will never meet. If my woman likes Johnny Depp (or is there someone in favor now?), Then what does this matter to me? She likes the picture from the TV screen, why should I care? She is next to me, and not with this Johnny, who in general doesn’t exist in our reality with her. But the girls are jealous of any Angelina Jolie, if they hear something good about that one. Any praise said in the direction of the opponent can cause offense and will sound like a personal insult. But we must bear in mind that the rivals are everything.
However, this is a completely different topic - the relationship between women. After all, all this was written for the other - just so that you hear the advice of your rivals that have not become familiar, and something different from them is a masculine look at a topic in which we try to get rid of meaningless "yes, you are good at it ... like ... put on ... buy. "
