"Morality teaches not how to become happy, but how to become worthy of happiness."
―Immanuel Kant
I wonder if every woman can say she is happy? When we are asked a similar question, we instantly answer - of course, I am happy, because I have everything - a caring husband, children, a favorite job.
Is it about you? Then you are on the right track. But the most important thing is not to convince yourself of this, but really to feel that way.
Positive thinking is the first step to victory. But some women tend to give in to someone else's opinion, thinking that happiness should be just like they say in books or as shown on TV. Such women become depressed ... And then, having suffered so much, they oppress their loved ones as well.
How to learn to be happy every day
Day after day, the minutes of our life expire, a woman seeks everywhere to be in time, be and stay healthy, beautiful, be like a mother, be loved and of course make a career. In the bustle of these days, we sometimes forget even to just look up and see what a beautiful blue sky and how beautiful the birds sing.
It is necessary to stop and look around and find the beautiful in the little things, because there is no “yesterday” and “tomorrow”, but there is only "Here and now". Think about the fact that tomorrow may never come. What would you do today? Maybe you should live to the fullest, breathe deeply, do what you have long dreamed of and say “love” to everyone you love.
But do not forget that the advice to live every day, as the last time, does not mean that you should drink, splash and do stupid things. Try to skip every moment! Learning is not easy, but if you start now, soon learn to be happy regardless of circumstances and people.
14 golden rules of happiness:
- When you wake up, first of all, smile at yourself and the sun (smile at your family, friends, passersby) ...
- Stop complaining about life, compare yourself with others, think negatively. Learn to enjoy the little things, not taking to heart failure.
- Find your hobby.
- Disaccustom to think negatively and "cut off" all thoughts about the bad.
- Enjoy the food (during the meal, think about the food, its smell, taste, refuse to watch TV).
- Take a walk in the fresh air, enjoying nature.
- Watch life-affirming films, listen to pleasant music (audio, song or video does not matter), pick up what pleases and warms the soul, let it be a melodrama or a thriller, a comedy series or a historical film ...
- Forgive offenders and release the past, leave only the good in the present. Learning to forgive is easy you must first forgive yourselfBecause we are human, we can make mistakes. Remember the movie "Eat, Pray, Love"? Send a ray of light to a person dear to you, so you give a piece of yourself by starting a new life filled with happiness.
- Read books or essays on psychology (there are plenty of them). Here, for example, Dale Carnegie and his "Textbook of life", Louise Hay "All that a woman wants," sister Stephanie "How to name a child so that he was happy" ..., Mrinal Kumar Gupta "How to be happy always," in each of the books have their own morality.
find various trainings and affirmations (on the Internet they are online and completely free). - Do good to others for free.
- Take time for yourself (thinking about the meaning of life, plans for the summer, etc.).
- Always put love in the first place in all situations.
- Dream it.
- Thank for all that you have now.
Joy in the family
Every woman should remember that there is nothing more precious than a family. That it is the foundation of happiness. And how to be happy in the family will tell you the heart.
There are two ways out:
- You understand that you do not like your husband, having clearly realized that he is not your man and you are unhappy with him - leave.
- You accept your spouse as he is, not wanting to change “for yourself”.
The recipe is banal simple.
Further it is worth understanding that it is very important to become in the family a mistress, a loving wife and a good mother in one person. Dr. Torsunov in his lectures on Ayurveda - the science of life, reveals the principles that help family people to improve relationships, diet, get rid of bad habits. For example, lecturing can help to quit smoking or get rid of craving for alcohol, if the husband or wife drinks.
In a relationship with a man
The main rules of strong and long relationship:
- become a friend to him
- take care of yourself
- learn how to cook
- "Do not bear the brain"
- surprise him in bed
- leave him time for personal space (going to a sports bar, beer with friends)
- say "I love you"
- don't try to change it
- be yourself
Such simple, but at the same time complex rules will help you not to lose your man.
If you are going to marry, consider whether communication with your beloved brings you joy. Maybe you just envy the rest of married couples, or just tired of parental care? Then you should not hurry with marriage.
Psychologists advise to download the book "How to become beloved and desired." She wrote it a modern writer Oksana Duplyakina. The author gives advice to all women. With her books, she teaches women to be more confident in themselves, to recognize their chosen one or husband from the other side, to improve relations with him ... And this is what Carnegie’s “Life Textbook” tells us about the husband’s relationship with his wife:
• do not criticize and do not carp at the husband;
• jealousy to anything, do not pursue him for any reason;
• give each other signs of attention, be able to listen to the interlocutor;
• be cautious, that is, inform your husband in advance about your or general plans;
• Read a good book about sex (spouses can get to know each other better).
But what about the man - he has to do something? Of course it should.
Read the poems of A. Pushkin's "Onegin's Letter to Tatiana", the characters of this work are happy or may be depressed by their feelings ... reflect on who you are for your man, who are you next to him?
Usually the causes of divorce or quarrels in a relationship are lack of money, dissatisfaction in sexual relations or divergence of interests.
To marry true art, which requires teaching and new practices. Rimma Home's book "Magic Women's Stuff" especially for women. She will tell you that you are a valuable prize, a find for a man, they will hunt you for prey. Decide on the "magical experiment" with Rimma. The writer has a rich experience of communication with the opposite sex, passes it on to other women, advises how to keep her lover, without straining herself, how to raise her self-esteem. In more detail about this book you can learn, having read responses and reviews of readers.
Alone
What if a woman is single?
Take this reality as a new stage in life and enjoy loneliness. You do not need someone to cook in the morning and wash dirty socks, you live for yourself and can do what you want. Skip this period and you will not notice how the only one with whom you want to wash socks and make breakfasts will appear in your life.
Understand that successful and happy people attract the same in themselves. If you will be grieving and suffering, you will attract the same loser to yourself.
(To all those who want to change everything in their lives once and for all, we recommend the book by Vitaly Gibert “Modeling the Future”).
After reading the text on Tibetan medicine by a Tibetan doctor, you will understand that women do not have time to develop in the modern world, that is, their physical condition - the physical does not have time for the spiritual. Previously, it was not so, women gave birth and 5-10 children, but did not do additional things, they were much less tired. So, you are in a period when a woman is cleansing the body (passes menstruation), you also need to cleanse spiritually, conduct meditation, for example, or do something useful, simple, you can’t be nervous these days, splashing out your energy to bring only good feelings into the soul. According to this theory, women are divided into 3 types: wind (lung), bile (trip), mucus (badkan). Not very nice names, but it is worth exploring these types of female energy at least for general development. Moreover, each type has its own character, its own diet, which helps to cope with PMS, as a result, to increase its vitality. It seems to be simple recommendations that will help a woman survive the difficulties, make contact with herself and other people.
Say in front of the mirror - I am strong, I am a man worthy of respect and love, I appreciate myself and love myself for who I am! Despite the loneliness, as you see, I am alive, and everything will be fine with me.
Even if it so happens that you live without a husband, or he betrayed you, be able to leave in English, because life is in full swing, thank God for the fact that you have relatives, friends, possibly children, parents. Every day, try to visit them, giving them love to all, you too will become happier! If you have longed for melancholy, you can have a pet, it will definitely become a source of positive emotions for you.
Love and be loved!
